So, having enemies kinda sucks...but what sucks even more is when you have friends who pretend to be your friends, but are really your enemies. I call those, "Frenemies."
I've had a few of these in my life time, but I will say I just don't have time for this crap.
So, what do you do when you have to cut ties with a friend? Even though you have a lot in common with them, it just cannot surmount the constant nit-picking, public scrutiny to include complaining about you on their facebook page-as their status-childish. And then to top it all off with not only belittling just about every opinion you have that differs from theirs, but also lashing out very rudely towards your husband and even worse your child? How do you do this? Do you flat out just ignore them till they get the hint-hopefully. Or do you tell them about what they've done to you and how it's hurt you and pissed you off? I'm not sure which.
All I know is that I am a nice person, and I deserve to be treated as such. Things in life happen to where we cannot be available all the time, but no matter what, with true friends you could be apart from them and not talk to them for months, or even years, and still hang out and be together without the whole nagfest of "Well....you haven't been around....if you want to be friends you need to be more consistent." This is what I cannot wrap my head around.
I have a best friend back home-a few actually-and I can go months-years even without talking to that person and when we get together or talk on the phone it's like we never skipped a beat-there was no time lost between us. And do we get on one another for being gone?! NO!!! It's called life! It happens! And sometimes you get really busy with it and are separated for a while. But this person is even bitching about a few weeks, maybe a month or two, and all because I had a loved one back home that got ill and almost died, so we went on an emergency trip back home to be with her-she's doing well and good now-thankfully! But what kind of a friend is like that in that situation? Shouldn't they be supportive, and understanding maybe? That's what I would do anyway...But that's just me I guess.
What pisses me off to is using children as pawns in the 'game'. Whatever the hell kind of a 'game' this might be. But the whole, "Well, if you want to get together again, YOU need to be more consistent in it, because my kids are now finally not asking for you and your son as much now...and I don't want them to get hurt again." Hurt again?! Why did they get "HURT" in the first place? Maybe because YOU are the one that is vulnerable, and indirectly are doing to them what your mother did to you as a child-made you vulnerable. Way to go on breaking that cycle. But seriously...and then your kids get away with murder, but my son so much as looks at a Christmas ornament on your damn Christmas tree and you bellow out-all-out SCREAM at him to GET AWAY FROM THE TREE!!!! When he's only 2 years old?! Bullshit. I'm not dealing with that shit.
A friend of mine said this person was poison, and was a lethal person. I didn't believe them, and didn't want to, but I am now. I can't help it. I've seen it all for myself and it really fucking sucks. And what sucks is I don't think they will ever change....I feel badly for them, and for their kids. Because it's really going to suck for them one day when everyone they care about has distanced themselves. Because for their own well-being, they had to. Just like I am certain I have to now.
Here we go.....
*SIGH*
