Okay...so I'd like to think that I'm a pretty nice person. But I have to admit that I am really sick of quite a few things. First off, what comes to mind is unwarranted parenting advice. ESPECIALLY if you don't have kids.
Honestly....please tell me what you know from your experience as a non-parent? Seriously? And even if you ARE a parent. If I wanted your advice or opinion, I know how to ask for it. So if I haven't, please don't offer, because I don't want it. Also, I am choosing to breastfeed my son for as long as I can. 2 years is my goal or close to it-whenever we both decide it's time to stop. I am a firm believer in child-led weaning. I love the bond that my baby and I can share by nursing, and I'm sorry for those of you who weren't able to nurse, or chose not to. I started out formula feeding and I regret it LIKE HELL to this day. I see pics of my son with a bottle and it makes me want to throw up...unless it was a bottle of breastmilk, and I CAN tell the difference in looking. I'm so glad I changed my mind when I had the chance...And people that give up the excuse, "Oh, well it hurts" (OF COURSE it hurts!! I can't even TELL you how everytime I had to feed my baby in the beginning of breastfeeding how badly my toes CURLED from pain...I would cry/laugh from the pain! But I GOT OVER IT!!!) "Formula is just as good" (Have you tried and smelled that shit? GROSS) "I think it's weird" (Women/mammals have been doing this since the beginning of time, but it's weird...um, okay.) blah blah blah....Where in the hell did this country go wrong, in letting women think that it's OKAY to NOT feed your baby the way we were always meant to? Seriously-Breasts have been INCREDIBLY over-sexualized by the public in the United States. And the dirty looks I used to get when I would nurse my son in public, DISCREETLY mind you, meaning I had a blanket over him-if he would let me-and it's not like you can see anything anyway!! I wanted to slap the stupid out of those people!!! I am now a huge breastfeeding advocate, but I'm not a nazi about it, but at the same time I do not appreceate anyone tell me what I should do, or shouldn't do, and the fun-poking that goes on-by people that are supposed to care about me. Thank goodness for my supportive husband, or I wouldn't have made it this far.
I am a firm believer in a lot of chld-led weaning of different topics. And I do mean child-led weaning in a lot of things...even weaning off of baby food completely. My son doesn't like stage three foods either by the way-get the fuck over it. I have. If it's making him gag, and throw it all up then I think that he doesn't like it. And really, have you tried that shit? It's disgusting. He eats fruits and veggies still in baby food (and he eats them in solids too...just not all the time yet). And loves to eat whatever we're eating. I feed my son when he's hungry...not just at his set mealtimes. I think it is totally normal, and healthy for a child to eat meals, and have snacks throughout the day.
And one of my HUGE deals, BIG BIG deal...yes, parenting books, and whatever other kind of literature is okay to read as far as parenting goes for tips and ideas...but it's not THE way one should parent his or her child...Guidelines maybe, and ideas definitely...but no one, NO ONE should go by any one book to tell them how to raise their child(ren).
And I have to say personally, that 'Babywise' Book, By Gary Ezzo, and Dr. Robert Bucknam, wasn't worth me even buying. While implimenting a schedule for eating and sleeping for your baby is a great idea...I REALLY think it's ridiculous, especially for a newborn. They can only eat so much at any given point in time, and what about growth spurts? When the child eats more than they usually do? And as far as this book and breastfeeding goes, it's a load of garbage.
I think, that the reason I have been able to nurse for so long, is because I've fed my child on demand.
And wow...I even co-slept for a while (More so we'd put our son to bed in his crib, he'd wake up hungry around 3-4 am, and we'd put him in bed with us then, and there he would sleep off and on till around noon. Nice huh?) I never had a problem getting him to sleep in his own crib as he got older, and naptimes and sleep times have never been an issue...and if they were at one time an issue, it was because we were all new at this game, and trying to figure things out. Once we did, it was all downhill from there.
Also, for MONTHS my son would only nap in his swing....but when he did he would sleep for up to 2-3 hours! It was beautiful! I had quite a few people tell me, "Well what are you going to do when he's too big for it and won't sleep in his crib?" Well I couldn't answer that one, I really never had a problem. He cried a couple of times....but there came a day when he didn't want to swing to sleep anymore...and he slept just fine in his crib. Funny, the 'books' said I'd have a problem. Whatever...
Is it wrong that I don't go by a book to raise my child? I don't think so. The only way I have known thus far how to parent my child, is by what my heart tells me to do. And so far he's becoming a wonderful, well-dispositioned, funny, loving, sweet, obedient little person. He's very smart, healthy, and SO loved. Isn't that what's important? I think so...There isn't a book out there that can tell you to parent from the heart....anyone can be a mother or father, but it takes a real person to be a momma and dada if you ask me.
Another thing I am completely COMPLETELY sick and tired of, is being a friend of convenience. So you're having a bad day? Bad things are happening to you? You feel like your walls are closing in....I've been there, and I'm there for you. But then those people completely shit on you when you need them...This is what's happened to me time and time again. I'm sick of it, and I'm done. I am done with one-sided friendships. Any relationship that is one-sided is a joke. These people had better pull their heads out of their asses and realized this before they lose me as a friend for good. Because I'm done.
I am sick of martyrs. NO the world doesn't owe you anything...and neither do I!!! Stop acting like you're the only one that bad things happen to...YOU AREN'T!!!!!!!!! It happens to millions of people around the world. So get the fuck over yourself. THE-WORLD-DOESN'T-OWE-YOU-ANYTHING!!! Stop acting like it does!!! I can't even tell you half of the shitty things that have happened to me, but I don't tell anyone about it. I take care of it, and I move on.
Deal with your issues, and figure it out. Not everyone wants to know about your drama....And also, not everyone is looking for solutions to their 'problems' either. Somtimes just getting it out there, and having someone listen is good enough. I can't even find anyone to listen to me anymore. Except my best friend 'C' I will call her, and my husband. Half the time my mom and my gramma are too busy as well...but they do listen, and I think it's because they're still dealing with the loss of a child/brother. And I'm dealing with the loss of an uncle as well...Some days are harder than others, that's normal and expected. Anyway...
When I do post something on the internet....I expect whatever kind of comments...but shitty comments from friends and family? Don't tell me my business. I won't tell you yours....and don't assume things. It all makes an ass out of you and me. Yes, this is true. I am amazed at some of the shit people put on their myspace/facebooks....almost scary really. But when I put something simple and stupid up there, I'm not looking for your scientific response....Nor am I looking to be put down. If you can't say something nice, then shut up. Thanks.
Also, facebook has those nifty little game applications and such....people always bitch about not wanting to play 'farmville' or 'mafia wars' or whatever. If you don't want to fucking play, THEN YOU CAN OPT TO BLOCK THE APPLICATION AND ALL INVITES ETC COMPLETELY!!!! But I really think that some people just like to have something, as mundane as this, to bitch about. Some people, if they didn't have something to bitch about, would probably die. I know alot of people like that.
And I'm sick of theft/stealing and people hurting other people...violence in general.
Also, IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!!!!!! No, really IT'S NOT!!!!!!!!!! You might think so, but you're WRONG!!!!!!! There are other people in this world other than you....crazy to think of, I know, but it's TRUE!!!!!
I am sick of political and religious bashing. Knock if the fuck off. Nobody is right, nobody is wrong. Get over it and move on. It's all about personal beliefs, and not about some fucking bandwagon bullshit. Both have become so corrupt now, no wonder I have no political party, nor any specific religion.
Also, lastly, DO NOT discipline MY child, when I am sitting RIGHT THERE!!!!!! What is wrong with you? Before I can even say anything? Really? Try parenting your own....I'll take care of mine thank you. Also, when you're here, watch your OWN child....I'm not going to do it for you.
*SIGH*
I think this is all I can bitch about for now...I need to go eat dinner. I feel a bit better now though. :)
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